The definition of trauma is feeling like you have no choices - that you are trapped in your situation, until something happens externally of yourself to make a change in your life.
As a trauma survivor, I can tell you this belief creates a self-fulfilling prophecy. When your internal belief is that you have no choices in your life, that you are at the mercy of the universe around you, your external world will reflect your inner beliefs.
Because we feel "stuck" or "trapped" in our situation, we don't actively make choices to change our lives. We wait for something external to happen to us to make the changes for us - loss, abuse, a car accident, getting fired, getting divorced - the list goes on. When we believe we have no control over our lives, we stop making choices, thus reaffirming our beliefs that we have no control.
The truth is, we have the power to make choices everyday to shape our present and future selves. We can choose what our health, career, relationships, and spirituality looks like through our choices, and we make our choices based on our beliefs.
About the Author
Kristi is a UX Design Consultant and takes a user-centered approach to solving problems. She is a creative mind, an introvert, and a highly sensitive person.